THE MONEY MAN
My mother always told me there would be at least one rogue in my lifetime and (Larry- a pseudonym) was the one, a player, so to speak, intelligent, driven, confident, good looking and extremely fun to be around. Irresistible; life of the party and well liked in social settings. The problem was that in the drive to success, Terry's failure would be predictable and inevitable. These rogues will gamble their passion, money, and all they love to their own failures and in time become confounded about why this is happening to them. No amount of reasoning will steer them from that path. Along that path are loving, bright, intelligent females who try their best to harness their extreme intelligence and steer them towards true success, but to no avail. Arrogance becomes their master. So, Watch out for their ability to manipulate you into parting you from your money, what money you built honestly with them. Sometimes they do have lots of money and nice cars (and mostly you do get to drive them) and expensive hobbies, but seemingly innocent of the simple, in-go versus outgo… financial plan. You will waste much of your own life in trying to make the relationship work, but you will, as well, fail in that endeavor. One day, the veil will come off and you will wake the the fu*k up (hopefully not broke and struggling. They usually hold all the money. He will move on and quickly to another intelligent, bright girl to avoid looking in the mirror and being alone, even having a lady possibly waiting in the wings. Saving yourself is your only option. It is a sad ending, but one of those "Mother Knows Best" lessons and thankfully, she never said, "I told you so". Interestingly, she liked him. I am so happy I did not stick around for the "fall". Facing the devastation was much easier when I was younger and could bear the destruction, both financially and emotionally.....more to come ...oh well, another narcissist infiltrated, but no reward to him. Sam Vaknin stated that our world will eventually become "corporate idiopathic and psychopathic", and you thought climate change was an eminent threat
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THE MONEY MAN
My mother always told me there would be at least one rogue in my lifetime and, (Larry,- a pseudonym) was one, a player, so to speak, intelligent, driven, confident, good looking and extremely fun to be around. Irresistible; life of the party and well liked in social settings. Here is actually the beginning of the story when I stopped into Zellers, a local Wal-Mart type and there was this bookstore next to Zellers that was going "out of business" and all their books were being sold off and here was this book, in the middle of a bookshelf,lonely I thought , waiting for someone to discover and hear what the book had to say. The title was "Think and Grow Rich, and I proceeded to purchase the book and to place the book in the bathroom where most of my reading took place at that time. On a whim, I I thought Oh, maybe this is meant for me. So, I read the book, very slowly, referring back when I needed clarification and in a brief moment, I knew I had to someway get my husband to read this book,Was it Divine Intervention and he promised he would. One day, out of the blue, the phone rings,and my husband stated "I know what I want to do with the rest of my life. more truth to come.....................The problem was that in the drive to success, Terry's failure would be predictable and inevitable. These are the overt narcissists (notice the plural) and will gamble their money, and all they love to their own failures and in time become confounded about why this is happening to them and eventually will become reclusive. I suspect there are many trophies to display. We must look at the lesson here. No amount of reasoning will steer them from their path. Along that path are loving, bright, intelligent females who try their best to harness their extreme intelligence and steer them towards true success, but to no avail. Arrogance becomes their master. So, Watch out for the inevitable discard for their ability to manipulate you into parting you from your money, what money you built honestly with them or your sanity and that's a big word. Sometimes they do have lots of money and nice cars (and mostly you do get to drive them) and expensive hobbies, but seemingly innocent of the simple, in-go versus outgo… financial plan. You will waste much of your own life in trying to make the relationship work, but you will, as well, fail in that endeavor. One day, the veil will come off and you will wake the the fu*k up (hopefully not broke and struggling. They usually hold all the money. He will move on and quickly to another intelligent, bright girl to avoid looking in the mirror and being alone, even having a lady possibly waiting in the wings. Saving yourself is your only option. It is a sad ending, but one of those "Mother Knows Best" lessons and thankfully, she never says, "I told you so". Interestingly, she liked him. I am so happy I did not stick around for the "fall". Facing the devastation was much easier when I was younger and could bear the destruction, both financially and emotionally.....more to come ....
The Money Man
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THE LADY AND THE TUB
When I was in the middle of divorce, I moved to an apartment by the lAKE AT BANOOK AND WAS QUITE FRANKLY ALMOST PARALYZED BY THE FEAR OF BEING IN POVERTY. i HAD A JOB, BUT I KNEW THAT MY FUTURE DEPENDED ON KEEPING MONTHLY EXPENSES TO THE MINIMUM. i LOVED MY LITTLE FLAT, It was in a TWO-STORY home with a beautiful boardwalk along Lake Banook. i WAS RENTING THE TOP FLOOR FLAT FROM A COUPLE WHO LIVED ON THE PROSPECT ROAD. tHEY REALLY ONLY WANTED THE RENT ON TIME AND A CUP OF TEA AND A CHAT. Inevitably, they wanted to sell this property,but at a price that I could not afford. Wanting to stay, I eventually called my bank and asked them how much I could borrow on a home and this, of course, was much lower than my lanldords were asking, but a forged ahead and offered what I could and to my surprise, they agreed. I was ecstatic, I was finally going to own my very own money Pit. This was an older home with lots to fix, but I didn't care. I was going to be safe with a roof over my head and a place to call my own. As I settled in, barely weighing 90 pounds, close to Christmas, I took a trip to Florida to see my Mom. She lived in a gated community and we would play scrabble everyday at the pool. One day a gentleman came into the pool area and the three of us began to chat. Dan was from North or South Carolina, I cannot just recollect and he was staying with his mother in the same park. He had that smooth southern drawl and as gentlemanly as anyone I had ever met. This was Christmas Eve and in conversation He talked about heading to Anna Marie Island to fish. I talked with him about my own fishing expeditions with my dad and he asked if I would like to go with him. I said I would think about it. He stated he would stop by my moms' trailer just after dinner and we would talk then. He left and my mom thought being that it was Christmas eve, she thought that going fishing would get me out for an evening and take my mind off of all that was going on with me. Dan came by my mom's trailer and we went fishing to Anna Marie island. Dan proceeded to share with me that his brother was one of the 10 most wanted in the US and that his brother was wanted for the bombing of the Olympics in Atlanta and also suspected of bombing an abortion clinic. He wanted to tell me himself before I heard it through anyone else. I took this in my brain, as best could, but have to say somewhat traumatized by his unveiling I noted prior that Dan had an injury although somewhat healed looked as though it had been serious. He told me he had cut off his hand in anger towards the FBI and media had filmed this. As soon as he had done it, he realized this was not a good scenario, drove himself to the hospital where they reattached his hand and i believe received some psychological help for what had happened. Dan was such a kind soul, a true gentleman and we began to spend time together in Florida while I visited with my folks. I returned to Canada and we began a long-distance relationship. All the people he met here adored Dan. There were only a very few people who knew the story at that point as it was not a subject one felt like sharing, especially Dan. I often feared Katie Couric or Dan Rather were going to show up one day to expose Dan and his family to more scrutiny to say nothing of how it might affect us, but my fears never materialized thankfully.
